A 5.5 Meter Bed For The Couple And Their Children

A former Belfast rugby player and his wife, a yoga teacher, are a couple who share a twenty-foot-wide bed with their four children. This practice can be unusual for many people. However, they guarantee that thanks to this new idea in the bedroom, the nights became more peaceful and fun.

Ryan and Kim Constable received a lot of comments when sharing through social networks how they end family evenings: a 5.5 meter bed is the protagonist. The couple have four children, Corey (11), Kai (9), Maya (6) and Jack (5).

The six now share a giant bed, designed by both parents to provide comfort and enjoyment for every member of the family.  A spacious bedroom, a double bed, a medium bed, and a single bed are the perfect components to change the way parents and children sleep.

Of course, everyone wondered where this idea came from. And the truth is, it was all caused by a comment from the eldest son, Corey. One day he commented that when he was younger he always slept with his parents. This comment triggered a wave of jealousy and questions from the younger children.

The dynamic was already established, as the children were growing up, they began to sleep in their rooms, alone. And when a baby was born, he slept in his parents’ room.

The parents didn’t count on the fact that the older ones didn’t want to sleep alone anymore, but together with them, in the same room. And that’s how they finally decided to make a super bed, which everyone could share during the night, reading stories, playing and talking about the day, until it was time for bed.

mother 24 hours a day

The publication of this bedroom redecoration produced so many comments that various media contacted Kim, the mother, to give her all the details of this proposal, including how she and her husband managed to set aside time just for them.

In an interview with This Morning,  Kim assured that the main advantage of this invention was that his nights are no longer so hectic, as he no longer needed to go from one room to another to make sure his little ones were okay.

“Some people tend to think that you stop being a parent at 8 pm when your kids go to bed, and that they should be put alone in a dark room and should sleep through the night. The reality is that it is not always necessary to do this”, guarantees Kim in the interview.

She also explains that in most aspects of her house there are no pre-set routines, everything happens naturally. And at bedtime, they allow each child to have their own pace. For example, the couple usually goes to bed at 9 or 11 at night, while the older children go to bed between 2 and 3 in the morning.

And the intimacy in bed?

However, one of the concerns that arise in relation to this issue is: when does the couple have some time alone? They are both sportsmen, have busy schedules and share a bed at night with the children, how do they find time for them? For many people it seems impossible to find a suitable time to be alone.

However, in the interview, Kim explains that the two are very open about this topic with their children and that they often go together to sleep in the guest room for moments of “intimacy with the couple”. And that, in addition to this custom, they also try to enjoy some moments alone, setting aside a day a week to have breakfast or dinner alone, just the two of them, thus preserving their moments as a couple.

science claims

This theme was the object of analysis and criticism. Kim, in turn, defends his idea, relying on the scientific benefits that this practice presents.

“Science has shown that premature independence actually creates premature dependency… Children who are forced to grow up and be independent before they are ready can actually turn into frightened people who want to get back to the safety of the parent. for a lifetime,” Kim argues.

The controversial publication no doubt prompted more than one parent to think about it, although not everyone makes a 5 or 8 meter bed. The key to the issue is to identify your children’s needs, meet them, and offer them freedom and confidence so that, in the future, they will be independent adults.  In one way or another, you must always be on the lookout for your children throughout their development.