I’m Your Father, Not Your Slave
Parents who often give in to their children believe that they will be able to calm them down this way. Unfortunately, the opposite is true: this attitude makes them think that a parent is a slave that they can control at will.
Society demands more and more of parents and their children. It sells a false idea of labor, economic and, of course, family perfection.
It is common for children, from an early age, to take part in thousands of extracurricular activities. That way, they don’t even have time to get upset or meet with themselves.
This is due to this competitiveness that forces adults to be
best
than the others. This thought has consequently been passed on to children.
Parents are more focused on their children’s success than on providing them with a good upbringing based on harmony, respect and playtime.
I’m your father not your slave
It should be clear that a child needs time to do nothing. She needs to get bored, think and play. She must learn to fall and get up without her parents paying attention all the time.
This is the only way for your emotional and cognitive development to be correct and for you to learn to face different circumstances in life.
In this age of technology and competitiveness, most parents only want facilities for their
sons
.
The fear of traumatizing them by forcing them to do anything they don’t want to, doing their homework for them, pleasing them with any kind of desire they have or simply not giving them any kind of responsibility are factors to be considered. .
If children are treated like this, they will end up thinking that the real world is like home. That is, when faced with any tantrum, unknown people will give or do what they want.
They will become toxic people. People who will drive others away. In short, they will not establish healthy relationships, because they will not know how to recognize them.
What can I do to prevent this from happening?
To prevent your child from treating you like a slave, you must follow a series of steps. At first it can be a little difficult. It is normal for some parents to feel helpless at the thought that their children are growing up.
Realizing how they distance themselves and start doing things on their own generates nostalgia and a bit of
sadness
. Despite that, you have to think about what’s best for them.
talk to your child
But don’t do this during a tantrum. The child will not understand the reasons while screaming and crying. So wait for her to calm down and then talk.
Communicate assertively that she behaved incorrectly and that you will not allow it. If she continues to act like this, no one around her will want to play with her.
Change the verb “to be” to “to have”
Faced with a tantrum, many parents often accuse their children of being “bad.” This is unfair and negative. Also, if it is repeated frequently for the child, it will end up creating problems.
Instead of saying “you are bad”, you should say “you did bad behavior”. It is the child’s behavior that was incorrect, not the child itself.
Give responsibilities to fulfill
Teach your child to do different tasks around the house. Depending on age, the child can already learn to do certain things.
In this way, she will become a self-sufficient person as well as feel useful. The sooner you learn to develop for the world, the better you’ll do. Helping around the house is always positive.
don’t demand so much
Remember you are a child. This is not the time to face the
problems
of adults.
Your child should have their own time to play and relax. Otherwise, stress and anxiety-related disorders may appear.
Allow her to express her emotions
The feeling is not a bad thing. Learning to manage emotions is essential in education, as long as it is correct. Teach your child to express their sadness, their joy, and their discontent.
Also, don’t forget to make it clear that you must do this respectfully, never insulting or yelling.
