The Best Discipline: Positive Reinforcement
In recent decades, the lives of families have changed a lot. Before, parents commanded and children obeyed. But now it is common for children to command and parents to obey. It is common to see children throwing tantrums on the floor in stores to convince their parents to give in, and earning what they want.
Of course, being a good parent is not easy . But if you don’t correct your children, things will get worse and worse. Because? Because the kids will do what they want and you will be frustrated.
The reality is that in many homes parents tolerate their children’s misbehavior, give in to their whims, and release them from the consequences of their actions.
“It’s increasingly common to see parents ceding their authority to their children. Not long ago, the children knew who was in charge and were sure it wasn’t them.”
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For children to learn who’s boss, discipline is needed. Of course, there isn’t a book with all the rules you should impose on your children. This is a family matter and will depend on the child and their circumstances.
Disciplining children with care and balance helps them to think and behave better. It also provides the guidance needed to make good decisions and become good people.
the true discipline
The word discipline does not mean exactly the same as the word punishment. It is used, above all, to talk about teaching, educating and correcting. It has nothing to do with abuse or cruelty.
Parents educate their children using a variety of techniques. One of them is discipline, which they should apply from time to time with the aim of correcting inappropriate tendencies in their children’s behavior from an early age and helping them to grow up on the right “path”.
However, just as a gardener must gently prune a plant so as not to permanently damage it, parents must discipline their children with love and care.
The Discipline: how and when
With love
There will be times when you feel like you lose your temper. But when this happens, remember that, generally, the punishment meted out in times of anger and frustration is excessive and produces the opposite effect to what was sought. This isn’t disciplinary, it’s losing your mind.
On the other hand, if you control yourself and discipline your child with love, you are more likely to get good results. It is better to listen calmly to the child’s explanation, perhaps leave it for the next day and impose restrictions when you are calmer.
To be effective, discipline must be applied in love, not anger. When you face a difficult situation, defer discipline until you are calmer.
With Measure
- Take into account the child’s age and maturity level.
- Assess whether the situation is an isolated incident or a custom.
- It is essential that you be realistic about what you expect of your child, but without justifying or ignoring bad behavior or attitudes.
- Be aware of your child’s abilities, limitations, and other circumstances. You must discipline him with measure and balance.
Consistently
Communication between parents is essential to discipline consistently. Some children take advantage of the lack of communication and ask the mother’s permission first, then if the answer is no, ask the father to see if they get another answer. If parents have different opinions on an issue, the ideal is to talk and come to an agreement, but away from their children’s eyes and ears.
Discipline must be applied with love, measure and consistency. You can rest assured that positive reinforcement will benefit your child . With limits, discipline, affection and guidance, you can help your little one to become a mature, responsible and balanced adult.
