What Happens To Spoiled Children When They Become Adults?
There will always be spoiled children. Even parents who want to be the toughest end up succumbing to their feelings for their child. No one can be prohibited from loving and pampering their child, but sometimes we overdo it.
Some experts believe a weaker generation is coming. Children who are very spoiled, when they become adults, can have certain disadvantages. Adult life brings with it many responsibilities and somehow we learn a lot of these things when we are children.
However, those little ones who have a life without difficulties sometimes need to learn from scratch. Generally, over-spoiling implies that protection covers all activities. These children are surrounded by comforts, and everything is very easy for them. Therefore, when they become adults, they have trouble developing on their own.
educating adults
The author of the book “Hyperpaternity”, Eva Millet, explains that children are not born spoiled. It’s us adults who start to overprotect them. Over time, they discover the tools at their disposal.
Millet comments that currently there are children who do not get up when they fall, as they wait to be picked up. This pattern is beginning to be observed more frequently, which already arouses some concern on the part of the educational system. It is difficult to change this behavior overnight, in both parents and children.
Although not everyone agrees, it is a necessary intervention, according to Millet. It takes a little character to raise the adults of tomorrow. The writer argues that, in this case, traditional education has its advantages. In some British schools, the old school is maintained. In this country, a child who can stand up on his own cannot expect to be raised.
There are models of education that focus on values. However, experts speak of the need for these values to be defended when taking action. It is necessary to show decision, ability to act and to take responsibility for the consequences.
Foster the spoiled child’s character
By the time they become adults, most spoiled children are weak and unable to resolve problems quickly. Usually, these are people who don’t act on problems, but complain and succumb.
Philosopher Gregorio Luri, author of the book “Mejor Educados” (“Melhor Educados”, still untranslated), says that we are introducing children to “nausea and not appetite”. By that, he means that these kids are prepared to quickly identify what they don’t like, but they can’t act on it. In other words, they don’t know how to solve the problems that afflict them.
For him, it’s not bad to educate them based on values. However, they must move from this reflective assessment to action, and this should be encouraged with examples and practical exercises. If a child is bullied, we must defend him. We have to teach the little ones not to give in to peer pressure and show how they can protect the weaker ones.
“For me, character traits are the qualities that make us great as a person: endurance, the ability to work with others, teach humility while enjoying success, and resilience in the face of failure.”
– Nicky Morgan. Former British Minister-
According to experts, children are already spoiled enough. They warn that spoiling them doesn’t mean making them helpless adults in the future. Today’s parents are used to reviewing their children’s exams. These children also expect their parents to stand up to the referee. They don’t learn about humility, are overprotected and become selfish, according to the authors.
The “soft generation”
Other thinkers point out not to make a fuss about it. Socially, evolution follows developmental cycles that are quite normal. Parents do not want their children to go through the same needs they did. If as children they suffered from their parents’ temper or lacked emotional support, they don’t want to make the same mistake with their children.
Today’s society does not admit forced behavior, seeks greater comfort and is less demanding at home. It also happens that culturally there are new models. There are mothers who sacrifice so that their children dress according to fashion. In other words, spoiling kids is not about having money. Spoiled children come from different social strata.
